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This often happens in the dating world. You've been messaging someone regularly for a few weeks, talking on the phone, and it's slowly starting to feel like this person might just be the one for you. The two people are laughing in the message, the conversation does not want to stop. Great chemistry on the phone too. You are giddy with joy after finding the person of your heart. In the next step, the two will inevitably meet (Relationship).

But after meeting, the picture changed. While talking face to face, you realize that the conversation is not progressing at all. Like the message, it is not possible to say the simple things properly. That is, there is no chemistry between the two of you.

Do you know why this happens?

Introverts usually face such situations. Time to actually reply to messages. What to write, how to say it, even the ability to delete and rewrite answers if necessary. As a result, it is much easier for anyone to bring out the most intelligent, funny or confident side of themselves.

On the other hand, when talking face-to-face there is less time to think before answering. Facial expressions, body language or immediate reactions also become part of the conversation. As a result, a person who is very fluent online may in reality be somewhat quiet or uncomfortable.

In messages, you don't see the other person's smile, eye contact, facial expression, or immediate reaction to anything you say. While emojis try to convey emotion, they are never a complete substitute for real expression. That is, even if you don't get a smile, the person on the other side can give a smiley emoji. There is no opportunity to do so when meeting face to face. As a result, whatever is false, the mask falls off in no time.

However, if the first date experience is not very good, it cannot be said that everything is over. Meeting for the first time after weeks of talking online can be stressful. Both sides become desperate in trying not to spoil the impression in front of the other person. As a result, it is not possible to express the feelings properly.

If so, give each other some more time. Try to gradually overcome the areas of external discomfort. Give yourself time to understand whether the person on the other side is really your 'man of the heart' or not.