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You meet some people in the office who start seeming very close to you within a few days. Every lunch together, interest in every small and big thing, frequent messages and more than enough care. It all feels good in the beginning. But sometimes this over-friendly behavior gradually starts turning into mental pressure. You start feeling that you are not able to distance yourself from that person even if you want to.

This behavior is nowadays called “Friend Bombing”. That is, in the name of friendship, creating such emotional closeness so quickly that the other person starts feeling helpless. This trend is increasing rapidly especially in the workplace, where people are unable to understand the difference between closeness and emotional attachment.

In today’s time, friendship has started happening very quickly. Especially in the world of college, office and social media, people start trying to get very close within a few days. This closeness feels good in the beginning, but sometimes this excessive love and attention later becomes mental pressure. This behavior is called “friend bombing”.

In friend bombing, a person tries to get emotionally close very quickly. He shows more care than necessary, tries to be with him all the time and makes the other person feel like a favor. In the beginning it all seems like friendship, but gradually the person starts feeling trapped in emotional burden.

What is friend bombing?

Friend bombing is a behavior in which a person starts showing excessive affection in a very short period of time. Like sending repeated messages, ordering food without asking, insisting on bearing every expense yourself or trying to be involved in every conversation. Such people often try to become “best friends” quickly. But sometimes loneliness, desire for control or emotional needs are hidden behind their behavior.

How does friend bombing happen in the workplace?

This thing is seen most in the office. If a new co-worker starts helping you excessively from the beginning, insists on having every lunch together, calls you home again and again, or wants to participate in all your activities, then this could be friend bombing. Many times people make quick friendships in the office to fill their emotional void. But when you are not able to give them that much time or importance, they start getting angry or try to make them feel guilty.

How does friend bombing work?

In this, the person in front first gives a lot of love, attention and affection. He makes you feel special so you get emotionally attached quickly. Gradually he wants to become your habit. But the problem starts when this relationship is not comfortable. If you maintain distance, say “no” or set boundaries, the other person may feel bad. This is where friendship starts feeling like pressure.

What is its purpose?

Friend bombing is not always done intentionally. Many people behave like this because of loneliness, insecurity or fear of rejection. At the same time, some people may do this to gain emotional control or to fulfill their needs. Such people want that the other person should always be available to them and give them priority.

Symptoms of friend bombing

• trying to get too close too soon
• texting or calling all the time
• giving unnecessary gifts or treats
• getting angry after hearing “no”
• expect to be included in every plan
• Feeling emotional pressure or guilt
• Do not give space in friendship

How to prevent this?

• It is very important to set your limits in friendship. If a relationship starts tiring you instead of giving you comfort, then you need to stop and think for a while. Every closeness is not true friendship.
• It is important to build trust gradually, maintain your personal space, and say “no” clearly when necessary. True friendship is where there is no pressure but respect and understanding.