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I just feel heartbroken.My parents and two brothers lived with me in Dubai for 7 years. I used to pay the rent, bills, groceries—everything. When one of my brothers lost his job, I even paid off his loan. I sold my 15 tola gold so he could stay in Dubai and look for another job.

My brothers saved their money and managed to buy a one-bedroom apartment in their names. I was happy for them. But then I lost my job, my husband, and had to move back with my 12-year-old daughter. One of my brothers also moved back to Pakistan.

Now I am living with my parents and managing my daughter’s education and expenses very tightly. But my father always breaks my heart. Yesterday, my brother said he would bring watermelon, and my father replied, “First give money, then ask for things,” even though my brother earns around one lakh.

I brought my electronics from Dubai and paid heavy customs duties, but now they are all being used by others. The washing machine broke, and I was blamed for it. They even sold my fridge because we already had two. My mother gave my old iPhone to my brother. Recently, I saw my mother wearing my gold necklace, which I thought my maid had stolen, and I felt guilty for blaming her.

My father has 3 crore in the bank, but he still doesn’t spare me a single penny. I even pay for petrol because my brother drops my daughter to school. Yesterday when I paid him, my father said fuel prices have increased so I should pay more. I said that Friday was an off day, and I was scolded badly. They know how tight my financial situation is.

In 2013, I gifted a car to my father. Even my husband told me to register it in my name, but I put it in my father’s name. Now when I need to go anywhere, they tell me to use Uber, while my daughter and I travel in rickshaws. I regret not keeping the car in my name—I could have sold it and bought a smaller one.

Last month was my brother’s wedding. They spent a lot, but they didn’t even make me a single dress. I wore old clothes because my daughter’s needs are my priority. My brother’s wife has only been here a week, and she goes shopping and eating out every other day, while I am given nothing extra.

A few days ago, we went out for dinner and I jokingly asked my father to pay. He got angry and shouted, “If this is what you want, you shouldn’t have brought us out.” I said I was just joking and that I would pay.

Yesterday, my brother and father went out for dinner, and the bill was 20,000. My father paid, even though both my brothers earn well. They have nothing extra for my daughter, but they have taken everything from me and still expect more.

Now I regret being so kind to them. I want my necklace back, but I feel ashamed to even ask my mother. I also want to tell them that the car is mine and I should use it, but my father won’t allow it.Please give your advice. Thanks.

Solutions; Bilal Farooqi

Allah will not only question the children about whether they took care of their parents, but He will also question the parents about why they treated their children differently, and they will be held accountable for it.

Ahmed Shahid

This is a practical world. Remember, just like in an airplane emergency, you must first put on your own mask before helping others. Similarly, you should never spend or give money to others until you have secured something for yourself. Otherwise, you may end up depending on them your entire life.

Muhammad Usman

Reading your story truly broke my heart. You are an incredibly brave daughter and an exemplary mother. What you did for your family—selling 15 tolas of gold, gifting a car, and supporting them for 7 years in Dubai—is something very few people have the heart to do. It is deeply painful that now, when you need support, the same people are counting pennies with you.

Please know that your sacrifices have not gone unnoticed by the Almighty. The kindness you have shown will not go to waste. Your daughter will grow up to be your pride. Don’t lose heart—the patience you are showing will surely bring its reward. You truly are a “Superwoman.”

This story is taken from the “DHA Ladies Official Group” on Facebook, which has around 130K followers.

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