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For the last three years, I have been living like a single parent despite being married.

I am a mother of two children, working hard every day to manage our home, job, and responsibilities alone while my husband lives in Saudi Arabia. The painful reality is that even before leaving Pakistan, he was never serious about supporting the family financially. At that time, at least he was physically present with the children and could occasionally help in caring for them while I worked.

When he decided to move abroad, he promised that our financial problems would finally improve. He assured me that he would support us regularly and make our lives easier. But after going to Saudi Arabia, things became even more difficult.

Instead of sending money home, he constantly tells me that his work is not going well, that he has financial issues, or that he is facing one problem after another. Sometimes, rather than helping me, he asks me for money despite knowing that I am already struggling to manage household expenses and raise our children alone.

I have repeatedly asked him to come back home if things are not working there, but he refuses every time. This situation has pushed me into deep loneliness and emotional exhaustion.

Another painful part of our marriage is the trust issue that has followed us for years. Even when he was living in Pakistan, I discovered multiple conversations and relationships with other women on his phone. Every time I confronted him, he apologized and promised never to repeat it. But after some time, another woman would appear in his life again.

Now that he is living alone abroad, far away from family and accountability, I constantly fear that history is repeating itself. He rarely calls me and mostly speaks only to the children. Sometimes days pass without a proper conversation between us. Even my children have emotionally distanced themselves from him and no longer show interest in talking to their father.

I often sit alone wondering what exactly I am holding onto in this marriage. There is no emotional support, no financial stability, no companionship, and no peace of mind. It feels like I am carrying the burden of a relationship that only exists in name.

I feel emotionally drained, lonely, and deeply hurt. Sometimes I question whether continuing this relationship silently is worth destroying my own mental peace and my children’s emotional wellbeing. Please give me advice. Thanks .

Solutions: Saba Fazlerabi

I think he may have married another woman there; it is quite common in KSA. This is typical behavior in such situations. Many men return only when they become old or ill.

Don’t give him any money. Focus on becoming financially independent. Improve your CV, invest in your education, and build your professional portfolio. Stay in the marriage until the truth becomes clear.

He does not seem willing to take responsibility for his children, so stop depending on him emotionally or financially. Instead of constantly worrying about him, focus on learning new skills and using them to improve your life.

Also, when your children are around 7 or 8 years old, you can involve them in small home-based activities, such as making crafts, threading beads, or assembling simple items. This can help them understand the value of money and responsibility. Any earnings can be saved for their school fees and future university education.

Amir Magsi

Obtain his passport number and check his visa status to see if he is employed by any company. Try contacting the company and ask what is going on. If you find that he is genuine, then that is fine. If not, get a job as soon as possible and settle yourself without informing him or his family. Once you are financially stable, then proceed with a divorce. That’s it.

Muhammad Asad

If he is living in saudi. He is working. And also living with girl here. Better to ask him to invite you on visit and you stay and observe him in month.

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